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A little more serious post this morning, this post is by @crystalsay4. Hope you enjoy it.
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I had a dream and shocking as it may sound it was about me surfing the net and coming across a blog post that was titled “wife material”. Little wonder I woke up slightly upset because for many days this topic has had a way of creeping up everywhere I go. Annoyingly so too…
So for clarification sakes I want to explore the subject matter and well attempt to understand what it means to be so called.
A friend of mine put up a status message a few days ago announcing his need for a wife and how CV’s can be forwarded his way for a proper perusal. I wondered what the CV might contain and thought to form a cover note that would accompany the CV.
Here goes:
“I am a young woman within the age bracket of 24-28 (because we know ladies hate to disclose their exact age), successful in my career – I am the deputy general manager of a bank, I am the company secretary to a multinational company (insert qualifications here). I am hard working, intelligent and pride myself with integrity being my watch word. I also am very domesticated: I cook, clean, get pregnant and birth children. I also am a very attentive person; I tend to the needs of others. I won’t nag or tell you I have a headache when you need to have coitus. I will never yell back at you when you shout at me, I will offer advice only when I am asked.
Hire me and see what I can do.
Yours faithfully,
Job seeker as wife material.”
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Isn’t it funny though how enticing a job offer is just before we get the job and let’s not talk about the process of pruning the CV and cover note just so it pops out at the employer and you emerge the victorious one. Then months down the line when the job has been bagged, we become bored, irritated and sometimes even frustrated and once again we start submitting CV’s and job hunting all over again?
A few days ago I asked what it meant to be a “good African wife”, as I had seen a comment to a post speaking about how a woman should behave like a good African wife. This got me pondering again and so when the girls and I had arranged to meet up for lunch/dinner on Saturday, I thought we might all broach this topic together.
Even without me bringing up the subject matter we somehow found ourselves on this subject. Miss FJ had asked if we were too career focused. She had wondered out loud as to why none of us was married (all of different ages). I should add that it was this same lass that had said the first day I had met her that ‘we will all eventually marry someday, emphasizing the need not to be worried’. So it was shocking when she had asked why we the ones who were in seemingly serious relationships had not settled into the marriage cocoon yet.
We talked back and forth and suggested what might be wrong or how we might just be picky. Maybe we too had asked for detailed CV’s for prospective husband material to be submitted but are yet to find the one that pops. We also talked about how we are the female folks and we require to be asked to spend the rest of our lives with the men at the end of the day.
Miss FJ went on to say something that struck me and stuck. She had said that since the bible refers to us (women) as the weaker vessel, she didn’t have a problem being the weaker vessel. She only needed to sit pretty and act like she couldn’t lift a finger and let the men folk do all the work. She also mentioned how she wasn’t yet a won price regardless of the fact that she had agreed to date her man, so he was expected to keep trying to woo her for as long as she was willing to remain in his life.
We processed this line of thought for a while and came to this conclusion….
There is no such thing labeled as wife material. Every girl who has made up her mind to work hard at a marriage and live each day with a view to making her husband as happy as humanly possible, tend to her children, build dreams and see them to completion, one who has also chosen to stay grounded in love and prays her way through every trial is good and fit for a wife and should be deemed so.
Take time out to google “wife material” and find some interesting and bizarre articles on the subject matter for your reading pleasure.
What’s your definition of wife material if your view differs with mine?
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