Written by Kae
Truthfully, I think this should be a blank space. Because there’s no loving someone who doesn’t want your love now, or is there?
Anyway, the document is not blank solely because I remember that they say where there’s life there’s hope. Since I still live, and I write from my own perspective/experiences, maybe there is a way to love that man to love me.
Playing Jennifer Hudson’s ‘And I’m Telling You’ in the background as I continue. Because I need that kind of motivation. We move.
So maybe previous occurrences have had the males falling at your feet with the bat of one fake (or maybe not fake) mascara-ed eyelash. Not even both. It’s until you stumble upon this Fine-ass, White Agbada-wearing, Mercedes-driving Yoruba (or as in my own case, not-Yoruba) demon.
Then he has you batting lashes and waving hands and almost riding a damn bicycle backward for you to grab and sustain his attention. And every time you do, it’s like the realization of all dreams. He’s smart and funny and sexy and just the right amount of cocky (I do so like them cocky). It’s like you’ve come home after all the trial and error toasters you have had to go through.
You are sitting down and getting comfy and ready to move in, then in true demon fashion, Baba tells you that there’s room, but not enough for you, and definitely not long term. You know those Don’t-catch-feelings, I’m- a- friends-with-benefits-situationship-kind-of-guy conversations.
You’re shocked (I was furious too, like, bastard, you hit me with my own freaking line?) But then you put your big girl panties on and say whatevs, because there’s sterling conversation here and chemistry and he kisses oh-so-good. And because, somewhere, somehow, you’re hoping that he will catch feelings. And if he doesn’t, well, you are woman enough to handle your feelings.
And….this is where I’m at now.
I haven’t found a sure fire way to love a man into loving you. I have learnt well enough you can’t force love. The only strategy I have is this- Love YOURSELF enough for the both of you. I know that’s very confusing, I’m still working on it myself, but then it’s only the first step, and I’m certain my readers are smart enough to work it out.
Then my next not-sure-fire way; You know what he wants, use it against him. Be everything he wants, even more. However, as always, there’s a catch to this. Make sure that you in no way bend over backwards to please him. That might be an interestingly freaky position for sex, but I guarantee that outside the bedroom, it’s a major L. Like Loser. There has to be a fine blend with both your wants, so that you are genuinely happy giving him what he wants without depriving yourself.
Umm, so, yeah. That’s where I’m at with the brilliant scheme. I haven’t had much experience not being wanted back. So, if anyone has had such an experience (and it is good for us females once in a while to keep us humble) please share what you did, or did not do, to win and KEEP your man. I can’t go through all this stress to have him waltz away after a while.
So, ladies, feel free, comment and share with others. This is starting to feel like those Hollywood movies where the Ladies gang up to seduce a man into a relationship. Hey, what do you know, that’s another idea. But this tea must not get cold. Cheers.
Kae blogs at byzantynechronicles.wordpress.com, you should check out her blog
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